Yelling is something most parents admit doing it at some point. Sometimes we just boil over. Most wish they didn’t do it and some will put themselves through a lot of grief wondering why they can’t seem to stop this behaviour.
Yelling is like stomping on the gas pedal at a green light… It’s okay when you really crave attention, but wasteful and unnecessary as a regular practice.
Most of us are raising our kids to be confident and to question authority when it doesn’t feel right. When the tools we are using do not align with our parenting goals not only do they not work, but they drain us of positive energy and make us feel faulty as a parent. Expecting our kids to respond to a fear-based tool when they do not fear us will often result in guilt, intense frustration and inconsistency in how or what we enforce.
In this interview Debbie shares her insights to help parents understand why they yell at first place and then offers some practical advices how to avoid it and use other, better parenting tools.
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About Debbie:
Debbie is the Chief Empowerment Officer for her company, Empowering NRG which empowers people (moms especially) to live on purpose, by helping them disconnect from negative energies (like self-doubt, fear, guilt…) and reconnect with their Natural, Realistic Guidance. She is a mother, a natural health nut, a dedicated dog owner, author, social worker, personal development leader and parent educator.
Through her experience as a parent educator and prevention social worker Debbie has researched, created and facilitated numerous personal and professional development programs for audiences ranging from school staff, to students, to community groups, to parents. She is the author of the award winning book Break Free of Parenting Pressures; Embrace Your Natural Guidance and contributing author to the Bestseller — The Gratitude Book Project, Celebrating 365 Days of Gratitude.
Debbie believes all parents are doing the best they can, with what they know, in any moment in time. “When we help parents tune-in to what they know, we open doors to all kinds of possibilities.”
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Break Free of Parenting Pressures: Embrace Your Natural Guidance
Have you ever wondered how parenting can be so fulfilling and yet so overwhelming? Have you ever dealt with your child’s behaviour and then had to fight off the guilt and uncertainty as to whether or not you did the right thing? Many parents experience regular battles with self-doubt, frustration, and fear that they are damaging their kids for life. In this book, Debbie Pokornik discusses how you can throw off these shackles-recognizing you have what it takes to do a good job and allowing your inner wisdom to shine through.
